And before I knew it my baby, my blog was abandoned by me :(. It’s been a heck of a March & April for me. For mostly good reasons thankfully :). How was yours? Here’s another set of self-talking shit. Let me know in the comments below if anything makes sense to you as well. If not – read again. I bet you’ll find something useful. Hehe.
How to overcome a loss, setback or adverse situations in life
- Give it time: Time heals. (Yes it might leave a scar. But it’s mostly when you ‘scratch’ it too much. Let it heal – don’t prick it.)
- Talk to someone: Got a best friend? Talk to her. Sometimes all you need is someone to simply listen you through. And a lighter heart always feels good.
- Call your mom: She’s one person who will always be waiting to hear from you. Talk to her while she’s alive and with you.
- See a psychiatrist: It might be a taboo in a country like India but heck with that bullshit. It always, always, always helps to get some counselling.
- Take up a hobby: Keeping yourself occupied goes a long way in fighting the odds in life. Go play. Write something. Grow plants. Play a musical instrument. Dance to your favorite music. These things are highly underrated.
- Help a friend or someone: You know what, there’s some magical fulfilment in being able to truly help someone, despite the lows you might be going through in your own life. And that helping need not be monetary at all.
- Talk to them about what’s bothering you: Relationships thrive on conversation. If at all, there is any scope to talk it out – do that. No one can ever simply read our thoughts. Don’t assume they know what you’re going through.
- Count your blessings: Successful people are always said to be grateful even in the face of adversity. And as they say, if you are not grateful for what you already have – you will not ever have enough.
- Know that you’re not alone: No matter the situation – there are people who are going through as much (or even more) pain in life. If that’s a comforting thought. Hehe
- Take up some sports: Staying physically fit may actually give us that mental motivation we need.
- Believe that there is a solution, a way out. There is always hope.
- Think of your past achievements or even the hardships you have overcome in the past.
- Do that ONE thing which makes you come alive. No matter how hard it may seem, push yourself in to doing what you truly love to do – at least for a few hours in the day.
- Stay in the present. I vouch that could be easier said than done. I’ve always been someone who has these constant random thoughts running in the background of my head. Believe me, your life will be a LOT easier if you just shut those (stupid) thoughts out. I’ve learnt if you’re doing a task give it your 100%. And as they say – focusing is not easy. Therefore, take breaks every 20 minutes or something and resume the work again. Sometimes, depressing thoughts can be more easily driven away than we think.
- Take out some time to feel depressed/obsessed? I don’t know I’ve tried this and it kind of works. Incentivize yourself into thinking about your obsessions for five-ten minutes for every twenty minutes of work you do. Either way, take out half an hour in the day to only grieve. Taking out time to actually mourn and cry, helped me overcome the loss of my loved one.
- Remember the best is about to come. Yep. The worst is behind us.
- Don’t compare: Nothing saps out energy from us like comparing with others. And isn’t it said – we never know what their journey is all about so let us not wish for their life.
- Find a mentor: Find a life coach for yourself to help achieve your true potentials.
- If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things: This is what Albert Einstein said. And I think it makes *total* sense.
What is that you suggest people do when faced with the down times? Do you think all this is too idealistic? I don’t. They are actually quite doable. Leave me a comment below 🙂
P.S. to self: Gosh, writing does really set me free!