Category Archives: Random!

That don’t impress me much (at least, not anymore)

I’m not impressed anymore by the motorbikes you ride or the cars you own. What impresses me is whether you heed the traffic rules (especially in Bangalore’s traffic!)

I’m not impressed anymore by the “brands” of clothes and shoes you wear. I’m impressed if you’re comfortable in your own skin.

I’m not impressed anymore by your looks. (In fact, if you’re cute-looking I just wait and watch until you eventually, behave like a total, narcissistic jerk.) I’m relieved if your nails are trimmed and clean.

I’m not impressed anymore by how you treat me. I take notice of how you treat your subordinates at work and the sales guy at the counter.

I’m not impressed anymore if you can debate non-stop on a topic. I respect if you think it’s not cool to joke about sensitive topics.



The Great Indian Independence Day and Feminism

Growing up I used to love “my country”! You know, how we have those cultural events at schools and universities with singing songs in praise of our nation and hoisting the flag every 15th August. You just could not not feel that patriotic fervor – even if for a single day!

As an adult women who doesn’t feel safe to step out even in broad daylight…forget after-dark hours…I don’t know how patriotic to feel! Every single effing day we see and hear stories of rather ‘harmless’ eve-teasing to horrendous cold-blooded crimes against women in our nation.

As someone who has had her “fair share” of being groped and pinched and poked in the ass (I know, ugh, right? I did turn to slap that bastard but alas it was too crowded to figure out) – on city streets, market areas, public places and where not…I don’t know…it’s gotten harder to nurture the patriotic feelings I once had.

All I have grown to think about is being on “high-alert” about my safety and the safety of other women I know. I am distressed and it will best be hypocritical to feel patriotic.

Am I alone in this? Do other Indian women feel this way, ever?

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Indian cinema – you have a long way to go

We watched Dear Zindagi yesterday. I found it flawless. Except for one bit. Why couldn’t Jehangir Khan and Koko be together? I mean, he was divorced and she was very much single. They both seemed to like each other.  They couldn’t go out for coffee ONCE. Why? Why? Why? Why does Indian cinema have to do this? Just because he is maybe 10 years older to her (and divorced)? Just because it wouldn’t be totally conventional? In all possibilities, even if they pursued, their relationship may NOT have worked out. That doesn’t mean they should not have given it a try.

dear zindagi, DearZindagi

When a refreshingly unusual Bollywood movie still manages to confine to stereotypes.

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When Trump Trumped

Okay, apologies for the poor (and probably excessively overused by now) pun in the title. So, Donald Trump was elected the new President of the USA. As someone who doesn’t follow the political news closely – I had learned that for many voters it was a difficult choice – much like that between the devil and the deep sea.

Among other things, political pundits remarked this was the result of a deeply-embedded misogynistic attitude. What saddened me was not the ‘apprehension’ of misogyny – rather the fact that the electoral results directly meant that the people defended all the publicly made oh-so-ludicrous remarks of Mr Trump throughout the campaign as well as otherwise. I would refrain from citing examples because I am sure anyone who logs on the internet at least once a day or reads a newspaper these days must be aware of them.


Image result for grab them by the pussy meme

Because obviously, I couldn’t write the actual remark! 


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Little bets

Do you keep “little bets” with yourself? They seem so childish – but I always catch myself betting something against something!

  • If this works out – I’m going to do that.
  • If I find that perfect shoe – I’m going to buy that dress I fell in love with.
  • If he texts me first – he likes me too.

And you know…

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A love letter

A letter I’ll hand-write for you when I find you.

My dear love

I’ve waited too long for you to even remember how long. And oh how I have longed to sit in your arms, under the shade of a tree and see the sun go down.

I haven’t thought of sweet names to call you. I do want to tell you many things.

I searched for you in different people – which was pathetic – because they were not you. I had a picture of you in my head which was mostly based on the movies we see and the books we read. I often wondered if you’d look like this guy I saw in the office or that guy I met at the store. All I knew is that you’d treat me right baby. And you do. Every single bit.

Love letter

A love letter…I can’t wait to write!

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When life treats you not-so-motherly!

Step-motherly – that’s how life treats you sometimes. You know, how you see in the movies or fairy tales? You know you’re not any less lovable. You know you’re not any less talented or beautiful or correct. At times, in fact, you (and some others too) know that you’re the better one. But you don’t get treated right any ways. You don’t ask for too much either. But they’ll spare no chance to put you down.

Don’t give in to them. It’s not you. It’s them. Don’t succumb.

step-mother, step-motherly,

It’s not you dear. It’s them.

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The city that is Jabalpur!

Among other things the most common topic of discussion in Bangalore seems to be “where are you from?” or “what’s your native place?” As I’ve got to answer this question so often I thought why not write a post on my “native”.

Jabalpur is a well-known city in Madhya Pradesh (MP) state which lies in the central part of India. During the Raj, MP was a part of Central Province.  The key cities in present day MP include Indore, Gwalior, Ujjain with Bhopal of course as the capital city. The state government for tourism had done an interesting ad campaign titled aptly “Bharat ka dil dekho” implying come visit the very heart of India.

Nice ad campaign by MP tourism

The state of Madhya Pradesh is also known for Buddhist Sanchi Stupas (built way back in the 3rd century BC), Khajuarao temples (which are listed in UNESCO world heritage site), Amarkantak (where the lifeline river Narmada emerges), Bandhavgarh Natural Park (the original home of all the white tigers alive), tribal life, Chambal valley and Poha – Jalebi (the most popular way to start a day).

poha jalebi

Let’s talk about the Significance of Jabalpur city now.

High court of MP:  Jabalpur houses the state high court of MP. It’s worthwhile to note that usually high courts are situated in the capital city of states.

MP HIgh Court

State Electricity Board: Jabalpur is also the home to Madhya Pradesh Electricity Board (MPEB) which is again something remarkable.

Jalpari MPEB

Marble rocks: Jabalpur is “world famous” for the splendid Bhedaghat waterfalls. Surrounded by gorgeous white marble rocks the waterfall formed by Narmada river, this is the number one tourist spot in Jabalpur.  In fact Bhedaghat has also had a stint with Bollywood when the popular song titled ‘Raat Ka Nasha Abhi’ from the movie ‘Ashoka’ was shot in its scenic locales.

Marble rocks jabalpur

Shirdi Sai Temples:  Jabalpur is also known as “Choti Shirdi” ie “Smaller Shirdi” for a big number of Shirdi Sai Baba temples in Jabalpur.  A lot of these Sai baba temples are well-known for fulfilling wishes of earnest devotees. On Ram Navami day every year (which falls around April) the city hosts beautiful processions which are a major attraction for city-dwellers.

Saibaba Temple Jabalpur

Ordnance factory: The Gun Carriage factory in Ranjhi, Jabalpur the strategic edge. Situated in Ranjhi, the GCF employs thousands of people from across the city.

Paat Baba Temple Ranjhi

Christ Church School:  Situated in north Civil Lines this more than 150years old convent school is among the top schools not only in Jabalpur but also in the entire state. And of course my sister and I are super proud to have finished our entire schooling from this school.  The school treasures the first Girl Guide Flag in India given by Lady Baden Powell herself in 1921. The Christ Church School has both girls and boys wings.

Christ Church Girls School Jabalpur

Jabalpur gets it name from an ancient sage Jabalipattan who practiced penance here. Interestingly, Jabalpur was nicknamed “Sanskardhani”  by Vinoba Bhave due to its cultural and social activities.

There are definitely more remarkable things about Jabalpur city. (All Jabalpuria’s will agree, right?!) The above points only place the city on India’s map as a significant one.

Are you from Jabalpur? What other remarkable things you’ll mention about Jabalpur?

How did you like a quick travel through my native city Jabalpur? 🙂 And the next time I’m asked “where are you basically from?” I’m just asking peeps to visit my blogs. Hehe! 

Heartline by Dr Shyam Bhat | Indigo 91.9 Bangalore

Dr Shyam Bhat, a leading psychiatric and also a stand-up comedian, hosts an interesting live caller show “Heartline” on Indigo radio 91.9 every Tuesday & Thursday evening in Bangalore. The best part about his show is perhaps his husky voice women drool over! Of course he offers tons of super useful advice to callers as well. First blog post

Last week he suggested a good way to change our feelings/emotions. Its often said that our body reflects the emotions we are experiencing –such as when we’re angry the muscles in our chest tighten and our brows wrinkle. He then advised that we can actually change how we’re feeling by simply observing our body. So, if you take a minute to study how parts of your body are feeling you can actually change your thoughts!

Until now a lot of us must have heard that our thoughts affect our conduct.  But, how many of us knew it could be worked out the other way round – change how your body feels to change your thoughts.

You wanna feel more confident? Put on that smile, straighten those shoulders – deliberately. Makes you feel better instantly, right?!

I think Heartline is definitely one of the best radio shows in Bangalore. Listen to one of his podcasts if you wish. The other one being – In the mix India by Nikhil Chinnapa broadcast live in metros across India on Saturday evenings.

What’s your favorite radio show in Bangalore or anywhere? 🙂

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